Break Free. Be You.

Break free & create the life you want!

Getting tired of the same day-in-day-out life? Are you feeling stuck in a rut or trapped in an endless loop but can’t seem to break free from it? It can be frustrating to hear about how to make your life great by doing things that you can’t necessarily do on a day-to-day basis because of your job and daily demands. Maybe you’re the breadwinner of the family, or maybe you have to fulfill plenty of responsibilities. You can live the life you truly want while still fulfilling your responsibilities and expectations. In this article, you will learn how to turn your life around and start living a fulfilling life.

How do I break out of the Loop?

Limitations are the things that keep us constrained inside a loop. They keep us stuck facing the same problems, having the same choices, and taking the same actions over, and over again. Some people got stuck due to circumstances, but for many people, they stay in the loop because it’s their comfort zone, where everything feels safe, easy, and certain. When you’re so safe in this comfort zone, you can’t find a reason to step out of it. The first essential step to breaking out of the loop is to work on the way you think. At Healing Hearts Center, #InspiredJoseph helps people shift their paradigms and consistently turn any limitation into an achievable opportunity. The following actions are extracted from our course and will help you break free from the loop and design the life you want.

Comfort & Cozy Zone

Almost everyone, even the most adventurous among us, has some version of a comfort zone. Maybe you follow the same routine at the gym, or you gravitate toward a certain type of person when it comes to dating. Or maybe you’ve been in the same job for ages, and just the thought of doing something else is enough to make you break out into a cold sweat. Whatever it is, a comfort zone, while comfortable, can be limiting—which is why stepping out of your comfort zone every once in a while can be a productive way to spark personal growth.

Our Exercise

Step 1.

Find Our Hidden Opportunities

In life, we will always have constraints of some sort. It’s us to decide whether they become our limitations. Every obstacle has a hidden opportunity. Instead of fighting them or resigning ourselves to them, see that there are two sides to every coin.

So if we want to break free from where we are, train our minds to think of opportunities instead of our limitations, an opportunity is a turning point that can create a breakthrough. All we need is to get the right focus and know exactly what is limiting us right now, not anything in the past or future.

For example:

Lisa is limited by her busy work schedule because it leaves her no time to spend with her family.
It stops her from having a close relationship with her husband and her children.
If only she could manage her time better, then she’d be able to spend more quality time with her family.

*See how limitations can be turned into opportunities? The last statement is the opportunity statement.

Find Our Hidden Opportunities

(Exercise 1) Now it’s your turn to come up with your opportunity statement:

Write down …

I’m limited by … [ the obstacle/constraint ] Because … [ why it’s a limitation ]
It stops me from … [ the thing you want to do ]
If only I could … [ the achievement ] then I’d be able to … [ the new possibility ]

*Once you’re clear about what you truly want and know what’s stopping you, you’ll be more driven to move forward as you now have a direction on how to turn your limitations into opportunities. Also, this is when you can start to think about what you can do to achieve that.

Our Exercise

Step 2.

Flesh out Ideas What We Can Do

After realising our hidden opportunities, it’s time to come up with exactly what we can do about these opportunities, planning the progression towards what we want.

Let’s take the mother’s opportunity statement “If only I could manage my time better, then I would spend more quality time with my family.” as an example; it helps her to reflect on what she can really do to achieve the goal:
● Set a clear time to stop working
● Discuss my workload with my manager
● Schedule time to play with my son every day after work, or during weekend
● Schedule date nights with my wife
● No work during family dinner

* See how many possible ways to achieve her goal with a clear opportunity statement?

Find Our Hidden Opportunities

(Exercise 2) Now, it’s your turn to reflect about what you can do to achieve what you want:

Write down …

I can …
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Our Exercise

Step 3.

Restructure Your Lifestyle

After brainstorming a checklist of things we can do to achieve our goal, create a concrete plan to make these things happen, invest our energy consciously. As the breadwinner for family or ourselves, it may be hard to fit all these new tasks into our busy lives. And so, reviewing our current lifestyle is necessary before trying to fit in anything new.

At Healing Hearts Center, we have a course module that is dedicated to helping you master your time. One of the essential frameworks to help organize and prioritize time is the Superstructure Method. To help you start living your purpose, we can use a simplified version of the Superstructure Method:

Review the roles you play in life and decide each role’s Must-Haves tasks, tasks that are critical to do. Without it, the outcome is meaningless. As you’re looking into your daily life activities, keep these questions in mind:

● What must be kept as a breadwinner?
● What should be removed or changed to get closer to your True Purpose?

*For example, The mother who wants her husband and her son to be happy every day discovers that she has 3 roles to play: the breadwinner, the mother, and a wife. She finds out that she’s been working too many hours, way more hours than necessary even as the breadwinner. She works overtime every day just to get more compensation. This has allowed her little time to spend with her family. So she has decided to ditch working extra hours every single day and fit in a date night with her husband and playtime with her son every other day.

This is what her new schedule looks like:

Find Our Hidden Opportunities

(The Must Have) on Monday, Wednesday, Friday

As the Breadwinner:

8 hours of work
1 extra working hour to make more money

As a Mother:

Bedtime story for my son

As the Wife:

Alone chatting time
with my husband

(The Must Have) on Tuesday

As the Breadwinner:

8 hours of work

As a Mother:

Play time with my son

As the Wife:

Alone chatting time
with my husband

(The Must Have) on Thursday

As the Breadwinner:

8 hours of work

As a Mother:

Bedtime story for my son

As the Wife:

Date night with my husband

(The Must Have) on Saturday & Sunday

As the Breadwinner:

3 hours self-training
to upgrade work skills

As a Mother:

Play time with my son or
Family staycation

As the Wife:

Dating or
Family staycation

(Exercise 3) Now, it’s your turn to reflect about what are your roles and what are the "Must Have" to fulfil your life purpose.

Write down …

Now let’s review the roles you play and the tasks you must do achieve what you want.
What critical roles are you playing in life?

Role 1: ________________________________

Role 2: ________________________________

Role 3: ________________________________

Write down …

What are the “Must Haves” for each role to fulfil your purpose?
Following the top table. (or download Break Free & Create Life You Want Pack PDF)

Now that you’ve created a new plan for your life. You are no longer limited by your everyday obligations and demands which are stopping you from living the life you want.

Start Living the Life You Want

You are now free from the loop of changing the way you think and making up your mind about what is important to you. When you know what you truly want and what’s stopping you, you can make use of the techniques mentioned in this worksheet to make a plan and start taking steps towards it. Download Your Comprehensive Goals Setting Exercise Pack.