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How to break free and create the life you want

Break Free. Be You. Break free & create the life you want! Getting tired of the same day-in-day-out life? Are you feeling stuck in a rut or trapped in an endless loop but can’t seem to break free from it? It can be frustrating to hear about how to make your life great by doing things that you can’t necessarily do on a day-to-day basis because of your job and daily demands. Maybe you’re the breadwinner of the family, or maybe you have to fulfill plenty of responsibilities. You can live the life you truly want while still fulfilling your responsibilities and expectations. In this article, you will learn how to turn your life around and start living a fulfilling life. Scroll Down How do I break out of the Loop? Limitations are the things that keep us constrained inside a loop. They keep us stuck facing the same problems, having the same choices, and taking the same actions over, and over again. Some people got stuck due to circumstances, but for many people, they stay in the loop because it’s their comfort zone, where everything feels safe, easy, and certain. When you’re so safe in this comfort zone, you can’t find a reason to step out of it. The first essential step to breaking out of the loop is to work on the way you think. At Healing Hearts Center, #InspiredJoseph helps people shift their paradigms and consistently turn any limitation into an achievable opportunity. The following actions are extracted from our course and will help you break free from the loop and design the life you want. Comfort & Cozy Zone Almost everyone, even the most adventurous among us, has some version of a comfort zone. Maybe you follow the same routine at the gym, or you gravitate toward a certain type of person when it comes to dating. Or maybe you’ve been in the same job for ages, and just the thought of doing something else is enough to make you break out into a cold sweat. Whatever it is, a comfort zone, while comfortable, can be limiting—which is why stepping out of your comfort zone every once in a while can be a productive way to spark personal growth. Our Exercise Step 1. Find Our Hidden Opportunities In life, we will always have constraints of some sort. It’s us to decide whether they become our limitations. Every obstacle has a hidden opportunity. Instead of fighting them or resigning ourselves to them, see that there are two sides to every coin. So if we want to break free from where we are, train our minds to think of opportunities instead of our limitations, an opportunity is a turning point that can create a breakthrough. All we need is to get the right focus and know exactly what is limiting us right now, not anything in the past or future. For example:  Lisa is limited by her busy work schedule because it leaves her no time to spend with her family.   It stops her from having a close relationship with her husband and her children.  If only she could manage her time better, then she’d be able to spend more quality time with her family.  *See how limitations can be turned into opportunities? The last statement is the opportunity statement. Find Our Hidden Opportunities (Exercise 1) Now it’s your turn to come up with your opportunity statement: Write down 
 I’m limited by 
 [ the obstacle/constraint ] Because 
 [ why it’s a limitation ]It stops me from 
 [ the thing you want to do ]If only I could 
 [ the achievement ] then I’d be able to 
 [ the new possibility ] *Once you’re clear about what you truly want and know what’s stopping you, you’ll be more driven to move forward as you now have a direction on how to turn your limitations into opportunities. Also, this is when you can start to think about what you can do to achieve that. Our Exercise Step 2. Flesh out Ideas What We Can Do After realising our hidden opportunities, it’s time to come up with exactly what we can do about these opportunities, planning the progression towards what we want. Let’s take the mother’s opportunity statement “If only I could manage my time better, then I would spend more quality time with my family.” as an example; it helps her to reflect on what she can really do to achieve the goal:    ● Set a clear time to stop working    ● Discuss my workload with my manager    ● Schedule time to play with my son every day after work, or during weekend    ● Schedule date nights with my wife    ● No work during family dinner * See how many possible ways to achieve her goal with a clear opportunity statement? Find Our Hidden Opportunities (Exercise 2) Now, it’s your turn to reflect about what you can do to achieve what you want: Write down 
 I can 
    ●     ●     ● Our Exercise Step 3. Restructure Your Lifestyle After brainstorming a checklist of things we can do to achieve our goal, create a concrete plan to make these things happen, invest our energy consciously. As the breadwinner for family or ourselves, it may be hard to fit all these new tasks into our busy lives. And so, reviewing our current lifestyle is necessary before trying to fit in anything new. At Healing Hearts Center, we have a course module that is dedicated to helping you master your time. One of the essential frameworks to help organize and prioritize time is the Superstructure Method. To help you start living your purpose, we can use a simplified version of the Superstructure Method: Review the roles you play in life and decide each role’s Must-Haves tasks, tasks that are critical to do. Without it, the outcome is meaningless. As you’re looking into your daily life activities,

What is your comfort zone?

What Is Your Comfort Zone “The comfort zone is a friendly, safe, relaxed, and reassuring psychological state. You will never change your life until you leave your comfort zone. Changes are in your comfort zone. It starts from the end. “ Before you continue, we thought you might like to download our Comprehensive Goals Setting Exercises for free. These detailed, science-based exercises will help you or your clients create actionable goals and master the techniques to create lasting behavior changes. “THE COMFORT ZONE” 01. COMFORT ZONE Feels safe and in control 02. FEAR ZONE Lacks of self-confidence Looks for excuses Effected by other people’s opinions 03. LEARNING ZONE Deals with problems and challenges Acquires new skills Extends the comfort zone 04. GROWTH ZONE Finds purpose in life Live the dreams Sets new goals Overcome obstacles A comfort zone is usually described as the zone in life in which individuals feel most comfortable, and it can be considered a mental rather than physical space. Clearly, physical aspects of comfort can influence where a person will be at ease, but usually, this is because these physical things are interpreted by the brain as safe. For example, an individual’s comfort zone might include defining sitting on their comfy couch at home as comfortable, and that individual could feel distinct unease if they have to do something else, like attend a party at someone else’s house in lieu of getting to be at home and spend time on the couch. This event might push a person out of their “zone.” Much of the reason comfort zones are concerned is because they become a reliable predictor for how people will behave or respond to situations, and they can be viewed as a stagnating element in people’s lives. Remaining inside a comfort zone that doesn’t allow for mental expansion or consideration of new ideas means people will stay relatively the same through life. Exterior factors are more likely to contribute to breaking down the zone barriers. Great tragedies or life changes may push people to change too. Leaving a comfort zone voluntarily is an opportunity for personal growth, and it doesn’t have to be caused by radical or challenging events. Marketing staff who head to work often find that they are asked to look for new ideas and interpretations, and those “minor forces” can push that marketing personnel to mentally expand zones and evaluate things in new ways. Leaving the comfort of homes changes the perception of comfort zones too. Goals Settings exercises often focus on this issue of learning how to stretch beyond defined zones to continue personal growth. Ultimately, mental comfort can be an enemy that keeps people from continuing on a path of change. Yet those that welcome stepping outside their defined zones may have a life of learning and development ahead of them.

What causes depression?

What Causes Depression? The cause of depression isn’t always completely understood. A major depressive disorder? Have you ever wondered what causes depression? Perhaps you have been diagnosed with major depression and are wondering why some people get depressed and some don’t.  â˜č Depression is a complex illness. No one knows what is causing it, but it can happen for a variety of reasons.  đŸ‘†đŸ»Some people experience depression during a serious medical illness. Others may be suffering from life-changing depression, such as moving home or dying a loved one. Yet others have a family history of depression. Those who do so may suffer from depression and be overwhelmed by sadness and loneliness for no known reason. Depression symptoms General signs and symptoms Everyone who suffers from depression won’t feel the same way. The intensity, frequency, and persistence of symptoms might range widely. You may be depressed if you have had any of the following symptoms almost every day for at least two weeks: crying a lot loss of interest in hobbies and interests you once enjoyed chronic physical pain with no clear cause that does not get better with treatment (headaches, aches or pains, digestive problems, cramps) feeling sad, anxious, or “empty” feeling hopeless, worthless, and pessimistic difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions thoughts of death, suicide, self-harm, or suicide attempts feeling bothered, annoyed, or angry appetite or weight changes decreased energy or fatigue moving or talking more slowly difficulty sleeping, early morning awakening, or oversleeping Depression manifests itself differently in men and females, adolescents and young children. Let’s look through every option: Depression symptoms Males may have signs and symptoms emotional well-being, such as feeling empty, sad, or hopeless behavior, such as loss of interest, no longer finding pleasure in favorite activities, feeling tired easily, thoughts of suicide, drinking excessively, using drugs, or engaging in high-risk activities sleep patterns, such as insomnia, restless sleep, excessive sleepiness, or not sleeping through the night physical well-being, such as fatigue, pains, headache, or digestive problems mood, such as anger, aggressiveness, irritability, anxiousness, or restlessness cognitive abilities, such as inability to concentrate, difficulty completing tasks, or delayed responses during conversations sexual interest, such as reduced sexual desire or lack of sexual performance Depression symptoms Females may have signs and symptoms behavior, such as loss of interest in activities, withdrawing from social engagements, or thoughts of suicide physical well-being, such as decreased energy, greater fatigue, changes in appetite, weight changes, aches, pain, headaches, or increased cramps mood, such as irritability sleep patterns, such as difficulty sleeping through the night, waking early, or sleeping too much emotional well-being, such as feeling sad or empty, anxious, or hopeless cognitive abilities, such as thinking or talking more slowly Depression symptoms Children may have signs and symptoms cognitive abilities, such as difficulty concentrating, decline in school performance, or changes in grades behavior, such as getting into trouble at school or refusing to go to school, avoiding friends or siblings, thoughts of death or suicide, or self-harm mood, such as irritability, anger, rapid shifts in mood, or crying physical well-being, such as loss of energy, digestive problems, changes in appetite, or weight loss or gain emotional well-being, such as feelings of incompetence (e.g., “I can’t do anything right”) or despair, crying, or intense sadness sleep patterns, such as difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much Common causes Here are some of the causes of depression: Abuse. Physical, sexual, or emotional abuse can make you more vulnerable to depression later in life. Age. People who are elderly are at higher risk of depression. That can be made worse by other factors, such as living alone and having a lack of social support. Brain chemistry. People with depression may have a chemical imbalance in the regions of the brain responsible for regulating emotions, cognition, sleep, appetite, and behaviour. Brain Structure. If the frontal lobe of your brain is less active, you are more likely to suffer from depression. However, experts are unsure whether this occurs before or after the beginning of depression symptoms. Certain medications. Some drugs, such as isotretinoin (used to treat acne), the antiviral drug interferon-alpha, and corticosteroids, can increase your risk of depression. Conflict. Depression in someone who has biological vulnerability to it may result from personal conflicts or disputes with family members or friends. Death or a loss. Sadness or grief after the death or loss of a loved one, though natural, can increase the risk of depression. Early childhood trauma. Some experiences have an impact on how your body responds to fear and stressful circumstances. Family history. If you have a family history of depression or another mood illness, you are more likely to acquire it. Gender. Women are about twice as likely as men to become depressed. No one’s sure why. The hormonal changes that women go through at different times of their lives may play a role. Genes. A family history of depression may increase the risk. It’s thought that depression is a complex trait, meaning there are probably many different genes that each exert small effects, rather than a single gene that contributes to disease risk. The genetics of depression, like most psychiatric disorders, are not as simple or straightforward as in purely genetic diseases such as Huntington’s chorea or cystic fibrosis. Hormone levels. Changes in female hormones estrogen and progesterone at various stages of life, such as the monthly cycle, postpartum period, perimenopause, or menopause, may all increase a person’s risk of depression. Major events. Even good events such as starting a new job, graduating, or getting married can lead to depression. So can moving, losing a job or income, getting divorced, or retiring. However, the syndrome of clinical depression is never just a “normal” response to stressful life events. Medical condition. All risk factors are chronic sickness, sleeplessness, chronic pain, Parkinson’s disease, stroke, heart attack, and cancer. Other personal problems. Problems such as social isolation due to other mental illnesses or being cast out of a family or social group can contribute to the risk of developing clinical depression.